Mastan bhai, thank you for your sincere words and your duas.
Abbu passed away today.
These last days were very difficult, but we were all by his side and the doctors did everything they could. In the end, I made the decision to let him go after he was declared brain dead, because I knew in my heart that Abbu would never have wanted to remain tied to machines with no life left in him. He lived with dignity, and I wanted his departure to carry that same dignity.
He was a proud, honorable man. Honest in his dealings, generous in his nature, and always there for others whenever they needed him. He lived a life that was full, meaningful, and deeply loved.
I stayed with him and held his hand until his last breath. Allah chose to call him back during the blessed days of Ramadan.
Please keep him in your prayers. May Allah grant him mercy, forgive him, and give him the highest place in Jannah.
Hi,
That is the final wish that a father can ask a son to let him go to the next world in peace.
It is life---and you want to hold onto that hand a little bit longer---. You want to feel that touch to linger on that brings about the father and son relationship.
I am proud of you for how you handled it---.
I have made these decisions three times in my life and they are not easy---.
When my father passed away---my younger sisters were 13---9 & 5. The younger two don't remember the face of their father. The older one vaguely remembers his presence--.
The older one grew up got married---she had problems---she would see her father's back in her dream to come to her rescue---but when she saw the face---it was my face---.
I met my moral obligations to the best of my ability. They all got their shares of property as asked by the islamic law---. I took care of all their financial neccesities from school till marriage expenses and then even after that---.
My older sister had serious problems with her husband---. I told my american wife that I am bringing my sister with her two kids to the house---.
My wife obliged with a yes and for four years she complied without a complaint.
My sister got her BS in Math in USA, started as a teacher---got her MS and then Got her PhD and is well set in her life.
I told my mother that the my marrying an american ( even though she is mexican ) as always was the will of Allah for HE had planned ahead of time for me---.
I tell you this---if I had married a pakistani woman---and you know how many of them are in such sister in-law dependence situations---I would have divorced her---.
I raised my sisters as my daughters---and NEVER asked them to treat me or respect me as a FATHER FIGURE---. It was my love for them---that I did what I did---they did not have to reciprocate---I still loved them as they were---. You ask why.
Because I was an extremely disrectful---rude and obnoxious son---. My father was a doctor---he was posted to a different location a few days prior to his death---. He was at work with other doctor colleagues when he passed away---.
I never had the time to apologize to him for my behaviour---.
There are times that I sit back and say to myself---how can a son be so disrectful to his father as I was---.
He could have kicked me out of the house---but he didnot.
I am that son---that on the time of burial---relative were whispering that my mother and my sisters life is doomed---.
Well---it was the mercies of Allah and prayers of my mother ---that I survived Karachi univeristy of the 80's & with the help of a friend I ended in usa---.
Wish you well and Allah's mercies for your father---.
